Does he make quips about women and their intelligence or emotional “volatility”? Whatever his attitudes are, the important thing to note is, “do his attitudes match up with perspective?” Refusing to Take Responsibility Divorce isn’t something that just happens overnight.That doesn’t mean to say that he is responsible for her cheating, or that he is responsible for her abusing him if those things have happened.
We all have choices when it comes to our relationships.
If your partner refuses to take responsibility for any part in the breakdown of his marriage, then he is likely the kind of guy who won’t readily take the blame for his relationship missteps later on down the road, either.
Also, if he is badmouthing his ex in front of his kids (whether she’s their mother or not); this is a guy who isn’t emotionally mature enough to put his children’s best interests ahead of his own bruised ego.
This means he probably won’t be able to make a relationship with you a priority either.
These include respecting others and having healthy emotional boundaries (knowing where one person ends and the other person begins).
Take note if your partner is: Badmouthing His Ex Sure, it can be pretty common for people to walk away from a bad breakup with a sour taste in their mouth.
There are amiable, civilized divorces, and then there are bitter, vindictive divorces—along with everything in-between.
The bottom line: it does not really help you to make assumptions about a group of people based on articles.
Forcing You to Go Incognito It makes sense that a man who is newly divorced may be hesitant to bring a new love interest around his children if he is a divorced dad.
As his children are coping with the loss of their family unit as they know it, introducing a new woman into his family too soon may really worry and confuse them, further adding to their sense of instability. (It can happen in a divorce, especially when a couple shares mutual friends.) But if you want a normal relationship; if you want your relationship to grow and evolve, but your partner insists on “sneaking around” or hiding you from his friends and family, then that’s not normal.
People commit to each other and get married for all sorts of reasons.